1. We are all masters of our own lives. We have the power to create our life. Whatever we believe, there will always be truth in that belief. Do the people we meet and experiences we have make us better or worse?
2. We were born innocent and some of us grow up believing perfection exists and some believe happiness doesn't. But guess what!? Either can only exist if we create it. Don't believe an outline of perfection that doesn't exist.
3. Don't hold anyone but yourself responsible for your happiness. The minute you take responsibility for yourself and not base your happiness on your partner, love will exist.
“This book is dedicated to the man who doesn’t need to read it.”
The love I have for this self-help book is similar to the love you have for naps or maybe that one pair of shoes that you’ve worn so dang much it has a hole on the side AND at the tip of your bigtoe. Disclaimer: the second part is NOT me!
How to Win Friends and Influence People changed my life the first time I read it, and continues to make an impact everyday. Maybe you think that you are in tip-top shape when it comes to how you react to certain situations or how you speak and listen to others. But, the truth of the matter is this: “...dealing with people is the biggest problem we face” on a daily basis. I know, it’s kind of hard to believe, but it’s true. When you think about it, how many times has your electricity bill given you the resting beez face? When was the last time your car engine spit in your face because you rubbed it the wrong way? Well, maybe not that second part because I’m sure its happened to a mechanic a time or two, but you see where I’m going with this, right? If you don’t respond positively, keep a smile on your face (even when it hurts), or truly listen, true friendships and interactions will never be made. This book is relevant in every life situation, from working in corporate america, rationalizing with your spouse, to running your own business.
The biggest people-pleaser of all time—that used to be me, but I’ve come to the realization that I come first and if it doesn’t make me happy, then I need to move on. That being said, one take away that stuck with me in Dale Carnegies writing was the topic on how to make people like you. Yes, it sounds weird and kind of makes it seem like you must be really boring or something, but it’s honestly some of the best advice I’ve come across!
Six Ways to Make People Like You:
I can remember a time or two working as a waitress and front desk receptionist—customer service had to be on point. Remembering names or starting conversations was my specialty. Getting great reviews from guests about how, “That one receptionist with the name of a jewel remembered my name every time I walked by and I really appreciated it.”, was the best feeling. It’s a connection that not a lot of people think they should take advantage of. Those six steps sound like a lot to implement daily, but I encourage you to take the next step in bettering everyday situations and interactions with them.
There are many principles of human relations all mapped out clearly in this book so, go download it from your Kindle, purchase it from Barnes and Noble or borrow it from me!